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Fear and Loathing of the Girl in the Blue Honda Civic...

by Steve Mona on Fri, Apr 6 2012 11:03 PM

This is an open letter to the young girl driving the blue Honda Civic on Forest Avenue in Bergen County, NJ today.

Young lady, you scared me. You didn't do anything "to" me to elicit that reaction and it might seem strange that a middle aged tattooed biker would be scared of a girl of perhaps 18 but strange as it may sound, it's true. You probably didn't really notice me riding my bike behind you but I noticed you. I watched you in your side view mirror as you continually looked down while driving and texted on your phone. I sat for a few extra seconds at each traffic light behind you as it changed to green and you didn't notice because your phone was more important. I prayed for your sake, and the sake of some poor unsuspecting person, that you'd look up and not miss one of the red ones. I didn't dare pass you because I felt safer behind you where I could protect myself from your foolish behavior. I was afraid to be alongside you for fear you might suddenly turn into me. I didn't want to be in front of you because I was afraid I wouldn't be far enough ahead to shield myself if you looked down at the wrong moment. I was thankful that you weren't heading in the opposite direction where you could turn left in front of me and tell the police that you, "didn't see the bike" after I'd t-boned you and died. That's what happened to my friend Wolf and so many others and I didn't want to be next. I thought of pulling alongside you at a red light and talking to you but I knew you'd either lie and tell me that you were only texting while stopped or perhaps just tell me to mind my own business. You see though young lady, it is my business, and that of everyone you put in harm's way because you can't stop texting while hurtling down the road behind 2+ tons of metal. I was trying to enjoy a crisp spring day riding my motorcycle but you scared me and I've thought of little else the rest of the day. You scared me because I have a granddaughter and another on the way. You scared me because I have two great sons and the love of a wonderful woman. You scared me because I have family and friends whom I love dearly. You scared me because I don't want my mother to have to bury one of her children. You scared me because I don't want to die like so many of my friends. You scared me because I don't want you to have to tell the police, "I didn't see the bike" and live with the fact that you didn't because a text message was more important.

I turned left onto Route 4 and you went straight and for a moment I breathed a sigh of relief. For a moment. But then I thought of how many more people you might put in harm's way. I thought of how many of the vehicles around me were doing the very same thing that you were doing. I thought of those things and little else the rest of my ride home. And I was scared...

by Mom on Sat, Apr 7 2012 6:43 AM
I as ur Mom read this and I am so glad (in a strange way) that I was reading this knowing u were ok......but frightened for every mother,and every member of anyones family who didnt read this ...including the young lady who would have been sorry the rest of her life ...as well as the people she put in harms way.......so son.....glad u r ok... love u..xxxx ur grateful Mom
by Frank N. Stein on Sat, Apr 7 2012 5:38 PM
Well said my friend. I think you did a wonderful job of articulating what so many of us, who have seen the results of such inattention, are thinking and feeling every time we see someone doing what this young lady did. And for a person of your experience, your strength and fortitude - you are someone I don't think of as afraid of anything or anyone - to admit that she scared you, speaks volumes about the danger this young lady and others like her presents.

Keep using this wall for good my friend. You are doing good things.

by Pup on Sun, Apr 8 2012 1:36 AM
Why at a stop light didn't you get her license # and then go to a pay phone and call the police? Most states have a no texting while driving law in place. At least call the registry of motor vehicles and report her.
by Slider on Sun, Apr 8 2012 10:42 PM
Thanks Mom, Frank. Pup, I agree with your sentiments but as a LEO I'm aware that a violation must be observed by a police officer and it's highly unlikely that one would be dispatched to search for her. Truth be told I was so in awe of her behavior that I never even glanced at the plate..
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